After 16 years of clinical experience, as a passionate researcher, I have been able to dedicate my career to exploring the complexities of the human being, both analytically and emotionally.
My dedication has not been limited to analyzing data and facts, but has extended to understanding emotions and spirituality, recognizing their influence on people's lives.
As a summary of human behavior, I could tell you two words that define the path a person will take (success/failure, illness/health): “attitude” and “habits” of life.
Each daily choice is like a building block that constructs the structure of your day and, ultimately, your life. Consistency in these habits creates a solid foundation that influences every aspect of your existence, and the attitude you have at these moments in your life will be crucial, as it will lead you to build your reality the way you want (you create what happens in each moment).
Over the years, I have seen people with different lifestyles, habits, and attitudes, and I will tell you one thing:
There is no greater burden than bad lifestyle habits and a negative or pessimistic attitude toward what happens to you or what you have to face in the future.
And, on the contrary, there is no greater transformative power than firm and constant habits combined with an attitude of positivity and confidence, and I have been able to verify this, not scientifically, but empirically.
Patients who have been unable to resolve their health problems (even if they aren't serious) because they've been sitting on the couch waiting for a diet and supplements to miraculously solve all their problems.
Athletes with incredible talents for achieving sporting success remain in sporting mediocrity.
People with incredible mental potential and intelligence become stagnant and limited, having dropped out of school and leading a life that doesn't make them happy professionally.
And, conversely, patients who have been given up for dead, who are chronically ill, or who have very complex conditions, can improve their health problems and return to 100%.
Athletes without physical condition or athletic skills become champions.
And people without great intellectual abilities achieve that professional life goal that they had always desired since childhood.
What was the difference between them?
Strong habits and attitude, that's what made the difference between one result and another.
If you're sick or have a health problem, stop feeling sorry for yourself and complaining, and wake up every day with the mindset of overcoming and transcending everything that's limiting you. Even if you have physical, energetic, or other limitations, do your best to reach a point of greater recovery each day.
Don't wait to be well to start doing things, start doing new things to get well.
If you are an athlete and want to go far in competition, commit to giving 100%, and with military discipline train every day, eat and supplement well, and have a winning mentality. Even if at times your mind tricks you and makes you see that you are worth less than you think, believe in yourself and trust that you are a complete winner, because that mentality will condition your body to do and achieve incredible things.
If you have a brilliant mind and great intellectual capacity, take advantage of what not everyone has and make the most of your full potential.
Determine what you want to do and achieve in life (not what your parents or teachers have told you) and work hard until you achieve it, and reach that life situation that makes you feel fulfilled and happy professionally.
No dream will come true if you don't take action and work hard every day with a positive mindset.
Over the years, I have seen people without talent or aptitude become champions, and, conversely, people with talent and aptitude achieve NOTHING, only absolute mediocrity in sports and academics.
Chronically ill and degenerative patients can reverse their deplorable state of health (to 100%), while conversely, people with easily treatable diseases or functional disorders become walking zombies on multiple medications.
Why have some people, under infinitely more difficult conditions, achieved their goals and dreams, while others have not?
I can answer you with two words.
ACTION AND ATTITUDE!
1 gram of action is worth more than 100 tons of intention
Do you want to reverse your illness or functional disorder, or achieve your athletic/academic/professional goals?
First of all, before planning everything you “should” do to achieve your life goals, you have to integrate one thing in your mind.
I can do it, I will achieve it, and I will put the best attitude, positivity, and confidence into whatever I do every second of my life.
This is crucial, because if you start your planning with an attitude of... I'm going to try it, we'll see what happens if I do it... we'll see what happens and based on that we'll give more or less... you will continue with your mediocre life, stagnant in terms of health, sports and academic/professional level.
This is the first step as a starting point: to feel and integrate all of this, and through the full conviction that your purpose will be fulfilled, go for it until you achieve it.
All that intention, energy and projection in your mind and in your entire being will be what will help you to fulfill your habits, and also, to do it with the best attitude always (it doesn't matter if one day you have a headache, you're tired, you have a fever, you've had a bad day, etc., it won't matter, you will transcend it).
Once you've made a mental and spiritual shift throughout your life, plan everything you need to do every day, and stick to it. If you do, you'll see how everything begins to transform.
Of course, you must be patient.
Another important thing (apart from what I've mentioned before - habits and attitude) to keep in mind and apply in your daily life is patience.
The vast majority of people want to achieve things with the least possible effort and quickly, and at the slightest change, when they don't see results, they give up on their goal, whether it's to lose weight, reverse an illness, go far in sports, or far academically or professionally.
Be patient, as it will not only help you achieve what you set out to do, but will also help you maintain emotional stability. A patient person doesn't suffer as much from life's circumstances and will seek out the best resources from a calm perspective to face whatever may come their way, with maximum imperturbability and composure (the key to reducing suffering).
– Plan your schedule and get the right amount of sleep, and make the most of your day.
Every second of our existence is a gift that we should make the most of, so seize every moment to achieve everything you set out to do by giving your all.
Eat the foods your body needs through a varied and balanced diet, and above all, with maximum kindness and flexibility, since eating is an act we perform several times a day, and it's important to connect with it from a healthy emotional perspective.
And very importantly, eat regularly at the same times every day, since nothing creates more internal biochemical disorder than unstable, daily-varying eating habits.
And for this whole attitude to be as healthy and transformative as possible, it's important to also take into account certain attitudes, emotions, and feelings that are useless.
Lamentation, complaining, self-pity, and guilt are other major obstacles that prevent a person from evolving as a human being and, consequently, from achieving goals and objectives.
-Regarding regret, feeling sadness, sorrow, or pain in response to a loss, difficulty, or adverse situation will do you little good. And while it's natural and healthy to express the emotions associated with difficult situations, regret can become a problem if it becomes constant or if it prevents a person from moving forward and seeking solutions to the challenges they face.
In many cases, constant complaining can contribute to emotional stagnation or hinder the recovery process.
The same thing happens with complaining; it has limiting effects on a person's life, as it can trap them in a cycle of negativity and a lack of openness to appreciating the opportunities presented in their lives for growth and development.
This constant complaining indicates a lack of resilience in the face of challenges. Instead of addressing problems constructively, the person focuses on negativity and consequently has difficulty recovering from adversity.
It's important to note that occasionally expressing concerns and frustrations is normal and can be healthy. However, constant complaining, especially when not accompanied by action to address the issues, can have significant consequences in various aspects of life.
Another of the great burdens and that can even be addictive is self-pity (of the poor me).
This form of self-pity, which could be called victim-like, has incredibly limiting effects.
The “poor me” mentality or victim attitude can manifest itself in a variety of ways, and people who adopt this approach tend to blame others or life circumstances for their problems rather than taking responsibility and seeking change.
These thoughts reflect a mindset that tends to externalize responsibility and blame external factors for personal difficulties. Changing this thinking pattern can be an important step toward personal empowerment and developing more positive and proactive strategies for facing challenges. Self-awareness and working on building a more solution-oriented mindset are essential for overcoming the "poor me" mentality.
And when guilt is experienced persistently or excessively, it can have limiting effects on various aspects of life.
The constant burden of guilt can contribute to the development of depression, as the person becomes immersed in feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness.
People who experience a lot of guilt can sometimes self-sabotage, preventing their own success and happiness because of the belief that they don't deserve it.
Guilt can cause a person to feel guilty for experiencing joy or happiness, believing they don't deserve to feel good because of past mistakes.
These four attitudes and emotions are some of the biggest obstacles I've seen in the vast majority of people who have come to my office. These obstacles were not only limiting their physical health, but also their mental and emotional health, and were preventing them from developing healthy lifestyle habits combined with a positive and proactive attitude.
So, taking all this into account, as life advice I would tell you the following:
Transform your life through your habits and attitude
Life is like a journey, and we discover that the secret to achieving our goals and living life to the fullest lies not only in what we do, but in how we do it and how we face each challenge. Lifestyle habits and attitude are the driving forces that will shape your destiny.
Choose the Right Attitude
I like to call each day a new rebirth, given that life is giving us another day to give our best, with new possibilities and opportunities.
So it's a new opportunity to decide how you will face the world.
Adopting a positive and proactive attitude will empower you to overcome any adversity.
Resilience and confidence in your abilities are the keys that will open the doors to new possibilities.
Eliminate Emotional Barriers:
Guilt, self-pity, regret, and complaint are shadows that will darken your path.
Free yourself from those emotional burdens.
Instead of blaming, learn; instead of regretting, act; and embrace a positive and energetic mindset in every moment of your life, so that self-pity and regret will vanish.
Create Transformative Habits
Healthy habits will build the foundation for a full life.
From nutrition to exercise, every daily choice is an investment in your well-being. Adopt habits that nourish your body, mind, and spirit.
Consistency in positive actions will create amazing results over time.
Visualize Your Success and Pursue It
Imagine your goals clearly and focus on the path to them.
Positive visualization will strengthen your resolve. Don't fear challenges; see them as opportunities for growth.
With each step, you'll get closer to the improved version of yourself.
Another thing I'd like to talk about before closing is trust, as I believe it's one of the most important things.
Trust in yourself, in others, and in life
When you trust completely, fear vanishes, because trust is what leads you to realize that whatever is to come will be okay, and that it is part of the path of growth and evolution, that is, you will stop suffering for what has not yet happened (the main cause of suffering).
- Trust in which you will be able to overcome any disease or functional disorder (no matter how complex).
- Trust in which you will achieve your goals and objectives, whether sporting/academic or professional.
- Trust in people. Perhaps some will fail you or disappoint you along the way, but you'll have given your best, and that's what should make you feel good.
You gave your best, with the utmost care and love, and that's what counts, even if you weren't reciprocated (on a professional, family, friendship, or romantic level).
I believe that trust should never be lost, no matter how many problems you've had, or how many disappointments you've experienced. I believe that trust from the beginning is a good foundation for a healthy and authentic relationship.
And above all, trust in life.
Every day, this gives us the opportunity to be better people, to have better relationships with the people around us, and to achieve our goals and missions in life.
Strong habits, a positive and proactive attitude, and confidence will help you maintain your habits over time, and ensure that your outlook on things is always constructive and allows you to evolve as a human being.
I would like you to become aware of all this that I have explained to you, and to be able to fully integrate it so that you can follow a path of constant growth and evolution, because life flies by, we are merely an ephemeral part of human existence, and one day we least expect it, the end of our path will come.
Wouldn't you like to look back when you get old, and before you leave this life, realize that everything you've done in this life has been worth it?
That you have always given your all (regardless of the results) and that you have gone all the way in every single thing you have set out to do in life?
Put all your energy and attention into your purpose, and I assure you that everything that happens in your day-to-day life will take you where you want to be.
“Stay away from people with negative and toxic energy, as they will only drag you down into their absolute existential and life mediocrity.”
Surround yourself with humble, authentic people with big hearts and a desire to give their best, so that the path you travel together will be one of growth for both of you.
So, keep all this in mind and start taking action, with firm lifestyle habits and full confidence that you'll achieve it, and with a winning attitude, see you through to the end of the road, no matter what the cost.
I'm not a psychologist, nor do I pretend to give life lessons, but my great curiosity about research (physical and spiritual) has led me to see things this way, and I only hope it can help you and guide you toward a path of greater health, fulfillment, and happiness.